I've got a lovely view of my arm and armpit, so no, grabber, I'd say it's the mirror position themselves.
I replaced my OEM ones with rectangular cruiser type ones and I can see fine now, as long as I turn my head to look directly at the mirror, rather than just glancing at it out of the corner of my eye.
I'm trying to find some mirrors that have a convex shape to the glass, that way the images in the mirror are slightly smaller, but you have a wide-angle view, sorta like a fish-eye. Harley Davidson OEM mirrors are like that, they have the "Images look slightly smaller then they appear" message written on the bottom of the mirror. I think it would solve the problem, personally.
Mick.